SELFISH, a term defined by wikipedia as 'Lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure', is usually considered as a negative aspect of one's personality, but you know what they say, "Everything has it's pros and cons' and i agree. I say being selfish has some really great benefits and every now and then we all need to be selfish for ourselves and for the people around us, saving them the misery of looking at a sulky face everyday. Taking out time for oneself, pampering oneself, doing something on your own that you don't want anyone else to know you did, turning a blind eye to people's concern for one day won't kill them. Just caring about yourself for once, it feels great. There are two extremes to this notion of being selfish once awhile. One can go to the absolute extreme of being selfish and caring about oneself at the cost of hurting others, which definitely is not what i mean here. My blog entry, dated 20th August 2013, titled, 'My Time, My Space', is somewhat along the same lines as this one. It's about taking that time out just for yourself, it may be at the expense of cancelling a plan with your best friend, or dinner with your family, but this little time is about saying HELLO to yourself, while the whole week you may have helped a friend through a tough time and heard all her miseries, it's time for you to listen to yours, your issues, your miseries and search deep within for solutions to those issues and problems, for it is the human itself, who can solve it's own problems, be it any kind. The strength to face a challenge comes from within, as self motivation. In this big competitive world, we often find ourselves lost, and we don't realise what we may be turning into, the slaves of gadgets, and documents and desk jobs which demand our attention almost 24*7. Even when we go to sleep at night, it is to wake up to the sound of the alarm to start our structured day, which begins with us offering our labor for money. We are so surrounded by activities for money, that we often find the humanity inside us, lost, and before it's lost forever, we need to be selfish and go against what the world demands and just sit for a cup of coffee with ourselves. Rediscover, rejuvenate, not care about the amount of work that awaits, or the boss' mail that requires urgent reply, because we all know, that until and unless it's the question of life and death, nothing is going to change in a few minutes or even hours for that matter. Taking out that little selfish time once a while, is very important, because it tells your soul that you know it exists, it reassures your soul and conscience that you matter, that you know who you are. Before being an employee, student, wife, mother, husband, friend, any relation and role, you are YOU. YOU is what defines all the other relations and roles in this world. So, don't immerse in these roles and relationships so much that one looses themselves. YOU, I, ME is very important for a peaceful, happy and contented living. As one of my lecturers often tells us, "We need to stop existing, and start living". 8 words, but they have defined the way one must live each day. Each day should be a memory well lived, and that starts when you're a happy person, doing what you like, and being with yourself as well, being a little selfish, just for little sweet memory of you, with yourself. My roommate once told me that the best birthday that she had was when she was at her new job, didn't know many people, she booked herself a hotel room, left her phone at home, spent the whole day and night at the hotel, all by herself, enjoying the spa, the massages, dinner, she was a happy person when she woke up the next day. It was a day well spent with just herself, and it is the best birthday memory she has. So, yes, maybe few of her friends, colleagues, family wanted to celebrate with her, but she celebrated herself, and those friends and family are still here to stay. So, a little time for yourself, a little selfish attitude and a little YOU, never hurt no one. :)
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