Sometimes, when one tries to be understanding and tries to be a good listener to people’s worries, many a times one finds oneself stuck in the middle, not knowing which side to ally with or which side is right or wrong. People often resort to cajolery many times to get you to do what they want and to keep your relations good with them you tend to do what they ask of you. But for how long exactly is one supposed to keep doing things that others want, when is it the time to draw a line and set some ground rules defining the relationship that you have? When is it the time to say NO?
Certainly, some would say, one should know what is right and what is wrong.
Some would say, keep doing the work until and unless it’s not under your name and blame.
It’s definitely not easy to say NO. Especially, when it’s someone you know, someone you’re related to, or maybe someone superior, someone you work for, like for instance your boss?
So, what should one do?
Well, for starters, be selfish, you need to know what you’re uncomfortable with and what seems inappropriate to you?
You need to stick like a glue to your values and your ideals, because these define you and make you who you are, and once you’ve lost them, you’ve lost yourself.
If you feel, you’re a person who’s respected a lot by your colleagues and friends, and people around you, you need to know that, it’s because of who you are, these people have seen who you are and that’s why they respect you, but if you’re not YOU anymore, what reason have they got to respect you, what reason have you got to respect yourself??
So, say NO, because that’s what makes you who you are, you might get a few smirks and annoyed expressions from people you said NO to, but that’s because you proved your strength, and deep down somewhere they might even be a bit jealous, of how strong you are. :P
So, don’t be stuck in the middle. The line between what your conscience allows you to do and what you find is wrong, is only thin if you’re willing to compromise, but it’s also wide enough if you’re true to yourself because the only person that you are ACTUALLY answerable to, in the end, is yourself.
And as Rachel tells Bruce Wayne, (batman) "It’s not what you are underneath, but what you do that defines you."
So, don’t try to justify your acts, by saying "I’m not like this from inside".
Because trust me, you and I both know, we always respect reality over pretence.
So, say NO, to say YESSsssss...!!
:D
Certainly, some would say, one should know what is right and what is wrong.
Some would say, keep doing the work until and unless it’s not under your name and blame.
It’s definitely not easy to say NO. Especially, when it’s someone you know, someone you’re related to, or maybe someone superior, someone you work for, like for instance your boss?
So, what should one do?
Well, for starters, be selfish, you need to know what you’re uncomfortable with and what seems inappropriate to you?
You need to stick like a glue to your values and your ideals, because these define you and make you who you are, and once you’ve lost them, you’ve lost yourself.
If you feel, you’re a person who’s respected a lot by your colleagues and friends, and people around you, you need to know that, it’s because of who you are, these people have seen who you are and that’s why they respect you, but if you’re not YOU anymore, what reason have they got to respect you, what reason have you got to respect yourself??
So, say NO, because that’s what makes you who you are, you might get a few smirks and annoyed expressions from people you said NO to, but that’s because you proved your strength, and deep down somewhere they might even be a bit jealous, of how strong you are. :P
So, don’t be stuck in the middle. The line between what your conscience allows you to do and what you find is wrong, is only thin if you’re willing to compromise, but it’s also wide enough if you’re true to yourself because the only person that you are ACTUALLY answerable to, in the end, is yourself.
And as Rachel tells Bruce Wayne, (batman) "It’s not what you are underneath, but what you do that defines you."
So, don’t try to justify your acts, by saying "I’m not like this from inside".
Because trust me, you and I both know, we always respect reality over pretence.
So, say NO, to say YESSsssss...!!
:D
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